Sunday, August 31, 2008

Make Change Happen

Make Change Happen...

That has been the message that I have received loud and clear from all corners of the Universe and from right under my nose. Make change happen. MAKE it happen. Not, hang on a little bit, something's coming, looks like a little change... Nope. The message has been MAKE change happen. Not Make Change, like can you give me four quarters for this dollar because I just saw Ms. Pac Man and dammit if I'm not a wiz on that game, and could you watch my kids 'cause I'm probably gonna be on that thing for a while. Nuh-uh. Make change HAPPEN. Not Happenstance. Happen.

That means it's up to me.

Damn.

Not that I couldn't do it alone, but wouldn't it be fun to Make Change Happen with a little help from my friends? And by that I don't mean for you to cheer me on, though I must say, your cheers have been the wind in my sails for the last several months. What I'd really love to see is a whole bunch of change. A whole bunch of people shedding fears or over-committed calendars or dream stealers. I'd love to see a whole bunch of people changing something. I don't mean like returning your calls that day instead of waiting a week. I mean like setting up a regular dinner night with friends you never see. Or picking up an instrument you always wanted to try. Or defying an old myth of not being good at baking.

I think I just gave away my list.

Damn.

So these are sort of promises that I'm making to myself. Nothing huge. I'm tackling the huge things one day at a time. But the little things... those little things that nag at me reminding me that I too easily break promises to myself. I don't like that feeling. That feeling is the crack in the foundation of all the larger changes. And it's these little changes that will bring more joy into my world. Here are my first five:

#1: Practice the guitar every day. Even twenty minutes. I love the little I've learned. Why not keep going? It's sitting right there in the corner. Go on, Shoog... pick at it!

#2: Shoot something EVERY DAY! I am joining a 365 Project. I'm excited to have this commitment with a larger group. I'm even more excited to make myself find something simple or amazing or amazingly simple every single day for a whole year. Whew... I'm getting butterflies just thinking about it!

#3: Tuesday IS Park/Beach Day. No school. No work. No appointments. The Park or the Beach only. I'm sure this seems like a no brainer, but life gets busy and we forget to give ourselves that bit of time to just enjoy life. And then all of a sudden, we're grumpy... the whole lot of us. Because, you know... if Mama's not happy, nobody's happy! This will also help with the next item on my list.

#4 Surf. I can paddle out pretty far. I could probably paddle to Australia. I can get up on a board in the inside waves. All day. No problem. Between paddling out and the inside waves are the waves you see on TV. That's where real surfing happens. Until I'm in that zone regularly, I can only say that I "swim with a board."

#5: Throw stuff away. I know... we should recycle and not leave a massive footprint. The problem is that most of the stuff I hang on to I have rationalized into being useful, but it really is just trash. I don't know if this is something I picked up from my Depression Era Grandma who kept sugar packets in her purse. I'm pretty sure it was. The other day, I had to throw out salt and pepper packets from my purse. I guess I had them "just in case" I ever came across a restaurant that somehow didn't have S&P at the table. ???

Okay, that's about all for now. There will be more. These are my changes for now. I'm going to start by going to the garage and purging some junk from our lives. YAY!

What about changes elsewhere? What one thing do you want to start doing? Throw it out! Public accountability is the best way to keep a promise to yourself. Trust me!

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9 comments:

HappyWifeHappyLife said...

Sugar - GIRL - you are preachin' to the choir!

I love this!!

And you're right. It's up to US to make it happen. STEER THE SHIP, or watch it run aground. Period. Those are the only 2 options.

You have inspired me... I am going to make my list, too (and trust me - THROWING STUFF AWAY will be on there as well. I'm not a packrat to the point that it's "Oprah-worthy" or anything like that, but it IS to the point that I get really pissed off at myself when I try to clean out my basement... and think "Now T., what the HECK are you holding on to this $H!T for??!" I know you feel my pain.

But you hit the nail on the head with this post. Time waits for no one, and if we don't move TOWARDS our goals (and yes, DREAMS), then we stagnate... and who wants that? Not you, and not me!

High five, girl!! :-)

LOVE THIS!
(and no, this is NOT a coincidence!!)

KingdomWriter said...

Hey girl, if you got to shoot something every day, what on earth do you shoot? If you lived here in NZ there would be plenty of things to shoot, as there is bush all around? Do you own a gun?
And of course now that you have bravely listed those things, you understand that people like me will hold you accountable to it and pester you about surfing updates, and how much you threw away etc. I can feel a list coming on myself...
You go girl! : )

smiles4u said...

I have been talking about this kind of thing for the last couple of weeks. I have been making some changes so that I feel better. I gave up drinking pop(soda)about 10 days ago and am back to just drinking water. I also started eating more healthy and am cutting down on the junk. And I started working out again...I have made it my goal to get some form of exercise every day.

The thing is I used to do all those things...I never drank pop or ate junk, and I worked out every day...and I felt so good. When I started getting over stressed and my time got so overloaded that I lost the working out and before I knew it I found I had some bad habits.

I know I need to make other changes in my life...you have me really thinking about this now. Maybe I should make a list huh? Thanks for sharing!

Ruahines said...

Kia ora Sugar,
Good on ya! And if you paddle all the way to Aussie you can meet up with me and Gustav!
The changes we are trying, my wife and I, to make, are lifestyle and where and how we live. They are happening slowly but for a long time we had no plan at all. For me personally, I need to pick up this guitar I promised I would learn. Kia ora.
Rangimarie,
Robb

thewritermama said...

You forgot to put:

"Visit the Writer Mama Back-to-School Giveaway every day"

on your list.

No musts involved. Just great books and stuff.

Hope you can make it by!

:) C

D'Arcy said...

I am so on board with you here!

I finally signed back up for guitar and voice lessons.

I scheduled an appointment with a gallery to show them some paintings.

I took a friend out to dinner tonight who I have not spoken to in ages and it was NEEDED.

I am going to be an even better teacher than I have been in the past.

I am going to try to excercise everyday.

Change is us, it is within us, it is happening to us and we decide how to let it do that.

I LOVE THIS POST!!!

Such great energy and you have inspired me today.


Thanks Shoog!!

Ann said...

Love the list. Don't you adore throwing things away once you get around to it?

Awesome photo project.

Marfa said...

I need to read this post every single day of my life. I think I'm going to print it out and keep it visible in different rooms of my house. There are so many changes that I have to make to improve the quality of my life. But most of the time I just don't make them happen! Thank you for this post cause I think it will go a long way towards helping me reach my goals and the life that I want.

Sugar said...

HWHL: I know you've got lots of changes happening. Throwing stuff away is a great way to see the changes.

KW: No shooting animals... just snapping photos. hee hee...

Smiles: I'm excited to hear about your change list. You are an inspiration.

Ki Ora, Robb: Lifestyle changes are so hard. Not sure what things will look like on the other side of the change. It's only all these years later that I realize change is good. And when the change is with a loved one, all the better.

Writer Mama: Yay! I love this time of year! I won a couple of books last year. Plus, the prompts really took my writing to a different level. Thanks!

D'Arcy: Maybe we can start a folk group and hitch to San Francisco with our guitars! Oh, to be a hippy. We were born too late... darn...

Ann: You are actually an inspiration for a couple of other Change Items. More to come later...

Marfa: HI!! I have little words of inspiration all throughout my house. Reminders of my promises and dreams. I'm glad I was a little bit of inspiration to you... thanks. :)