tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post1244037399560812467..comments2024-01-30T21:31:09.198-08:00Comments on Living - In Theory: Mean GirlsSugar Joneshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14350485179045324078noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-10467933650377660342009-01-21T21:18:00.000-08:002009-01-21T21:18:00.000-08:00I encountered a girl from work that was very catty...I encountered a girl from work that was very catty and manipulative. I couldnt believe how many followers she had, i mean she singled me out at my work, and it was hard to believe, cuz i worked at a school, and the teachers that i worked with were rude and made a lot of sarcastic remarks. This girl in particular though was not attractive, but she was loud and she was the type that needs to be the center of attention. She seemed very insecure cuz she would constantly talk about herself,but what i find very comical is that she would say things behind my back and say that im ugly, but she would copy my hairstyles, which i didnt get. <BR/> I even confronted this girl twice about my feelings and if she could quit the sarcastic and catty bullshit, but she denied that she was doing any of that. And from then on she gossiped to my coworkers by saying that i am too sensitive and she continued to make sarcastic remarks by making herself feel like te victim and blaming me for acting immature!-I really dont get it!!<BR/> However, i did imply to a coworker that girls are mean cuz of thier own insecurities. And this made things worse, this particular girl was in soo much doubt that she was insecure and was angry that i had made the comment.<BR/> So my best advice and from what i have learned is to stay the hell away from insecure girls, and i have good radar when it comes to them. Insecure girls feel superior towards the more humble and innocent girls that maybe more intelligent, be better looking, or are more successful. They like to single out girls that are vulnerable and that seem different. Most importantly they single out girls that have doubt in thier character!! No matter how hard i try to change girls' insecurities, there is just no way, cuz they need constant re-assurance and they need attention!And there is way to much competition, girls need to understand that everyone has flaws so then why must we put each other down or judge each other!- no one deserves to be dehumanized or made to feel inferior!! We need to come together and support one another!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-29609238882175064312008-12-31T13:25:00.000-08:002008-12-31T13:25:00.000-08:00I loved this post - I was bullied like mad by mean...I loved this post - I was bullied like mad by mean girls in high school, and looking back, am pretty happy about it: because being on the "outside" of a clique gives you persepective (i.e. you're not "blind" and can learn).<BR/><BR/>Now if I ever have to deal with a Momzilla (or Dadzilla ;-) the end result is that I'm glad I'm not like her/him, and I feel even better about who I am!! lolJeanne Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12096040179637686179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-61343653831733832052008-10-13T18:05:00.000-07:002008-10-13T18:05:00.000-07:00Funny. Momzillas eh? That's a new term for it all...Funny. Momzillas eh? That's a new term for it all. <BR/><BR/>Plus I think the whole email/blog thing gives us a big step away from reality and can say anything we want...so it comes out maybe stronger than we mean to sometimes? <BR/><BR/>But I hear you.<BR/><BR/>I get all angry at things, and sometimes my email gets sent off before I think, and I then I go..um if I were in person I would NEVER have done that?<BR/><BR/>but the negative blogs...they get old and hard to keep reading. seems like they started out funny and get darker and darker...which reminds me..I need to go see if mine's gotten too dark lately..!<BR/><BR/>Plus I have a 6th grade girl this year and am bracing for the 'crap' to begin...Carissa(GoodnCrazy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06345343198854496110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-76279098432140042062008-10-13T14:34:00.000-07:002008-10-13T14:34:00.000-07:00Oh wow, do I have a thing about Mean Girls. I am a...Oh wow, do I have a thing about Mean Girls. I am a girl's girl and a guy's girl. Mean Girls make me crazy - I will NOT have them in my sphere, I think they are absolutely toxic human beings. I think Momzillas are insecure, status-driven, and shallow - I truly fear for their children. <BR/><BR/>I have to laugh at that person's reaction to Heather - it just reeks of jealousy and more. What was she expecting - an invite to dinner for pete's sake? Probably. Obviously, that person enjoys back-stabbing and was all geared up to do so with Heather as well. Can you say predictable?<BR/><BR/>I deal with them by keeping them as far from me as possible, period. They are so easy to spot, so obvious - and I really won't make exceptions. Yuck.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16860768361414240309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-57470987951026861842008-10-11T20:44:00.000-07:002008-10-11T20:44:00.000-07:00OH yes, the mean girls continue, and always will. ...OH yes, the mean girls continue, and always will. I posted about this a while back here: http://www.tothinkistocreate.com/2008/04/23/mean-girls/<BR/><BR/>In the end, the only way for the mean girls to have "power" is to give it to them. I am getting better and better at not giving it to them. ;) Almost there...To Think is to Createhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07991324171850357891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-55369520247629761782008-10-11T20:39:00.000-07:002008-10-11T20:39:00.000-07:00I think you nailed it, insecurity and jealousy. Po...I think you nailed it, insecurity and jealousy. Poor things, you just have to feel sorry for them. I've had people get upset with me because I won't allow my kids to eat junk food, and I think it's because they feel guilty that they do...weird, I know. I also think they learned it from their moms. I have a friend that is very critical and then I met her mom and I found out why.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-83975064000370519262008-10-11T18:50:00.000-07:002008-10-11T18:50:00.000-07:00I've always believed it was insecurity. If you are...I've always believed it was insecurity. If you are secure with yourself and happy with who you are, then what's the point in trying to bring other people down? No person who is truly at peace with themselves has any reason to pick fights in an attempt to boost their own egos. It's a waste of time and energy. And, in the end, it just makes them look bad. <BR/>What do I to deal with mean girls/moms? Besides ignoring them? Why, I just sit back and wait. They always bring themselves down with their own actions. It is inevitable. And often hilarious.;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-41253069497573425322008-10-11T17:32:00.000-07:002008-10-11T17:32:00.000-07:00Wow! Thanks so much for the shout-out, I greatly a...Wow! Thanks so much for the shout-out, I greatly appreciate it! Thankfully, I think I paid my dues with mean girls in junior high and now they steer clear of me.<BR/><BR/>i did have an extensive run-in with one a few years back that was very, very bad- and what I learned is that you can't cure other people's crazy, but you can learn to stay the heck away from them. SO that's what I did, although it felt like she was "winning." But my blood pressure improved drastically. :)Great post, Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-8770043773038666772008-10-11T13:27:00.000-07:002008-10-11T13:27:00.000-07:00This phenomenon is not limited to just the females...This phenomenon is not limited to just the females of the species. While, in my experience, it's not dads one upping each other over child care men are quite adept at this behavior. It usually comes at work but I have encountered it in other situations including at church. And it can be about anything really: the way you look, your job, your politics, the car you drive or the life you lead.<BR/><BR/>I think some people are just scared of differences. If you aren't exactly like them they would rather heap scorn on you than try to understand you. And it's sad because the most interesting people I've had the pleasure of knowing were very different than me. It's unfortunate that those people will never know what that's like.PhineasPoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16502179384295631727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-30157910195466612502008-10-10T20:16:00.000-07:002008-10-10T20:16:00.000-07:00This is quite a post. And I must say, I have misse...This is quite a post. And I must say, I have missed reading you....I have been in and out...I must get back IN.<BR/>I hate the haters. The Momzillas. The Mean girls. They have been at me since I was in 6th grade. <BR/>i don't know why....I know I am smarter, kinder, funnier.....but still they are just meaner and somehow that bothers me...<BR/>I will ponder this some more. Thanks for bringing it up. You are such a gem. :)<BR/>SuzBusy Bee Suzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18115487928147732314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-20117744703192222762008-10-10T17:33:00.000-07:002008-10-10T17:33:00.000-07:00Yeah, I know them.And I believe in KARMA....In fac...Yeah, I know them.<BR/><BR/><BR/>And I believe in KARMA....<BR/><BR/><BR/>In fact, usually, their lives are their just reward. People who are mean usually aren't that happy and thus have to put others down to try and raise themselves up.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Glad you and me don't roll that way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584248569655542892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-2321781910295378582008-10-10T09:05:00.000-07:002008-10-10T09:05:00.000-07:00Unfortunately my sil is the momzilla. But then eve...Unfortunately my sil is the momzilla. But then every once in a while she does something fantastically generous/nice. I think it's just to keep me guessing! LOL. I've just stopped answering her calls, and responding with email. I think she got the hint.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07538405269004766055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-17522754736242450782008-10-10T05:55:00.000-07:002008-10-10T05:55:00.000-07:00Bubbly pink feather boa girl, here. Thanks for ref...Bubbly pink feather boa girl, here. Thanks for referring to my story and my website.<BR/><BR/>Mean girls get their power and their importance by putting down others. These are people who can't find strength from within, so they take it from others. Maybe they have overbearing husbands or bosses or family members and this is how they get that feeling of control they lack in their everyday lives. Being mean boosts their sense of self. It makes them feel important, alive, powerful, and in control. <BR/><BR/>Mean girls will fight to the death claiming they are just being honest. They are just saying what they feel. They are just being true to themselves. They can't think of puppies and sunshine 24 hours a day. Well, no one can. Some of us just choose to keep those thoughts and actions to ourselves.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry I can't finish my thought. I'm mesermized by queenoftheclick's animated avatar. The blowing of hearts is so cool. And hey, it sums up what I'm trying to say. Put love out there and you'll get love in return. Send out hate and the universe will give you more hateful opportunities.Mutha Maehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071091659191752451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-82680222084275620752008-10-09T19:49:00.000-07:002008-10-09T19:49:00.000-07:00I'm pretty sure they are just very insecure. That...I'm pretty sure they are just very insecure. That by no means justifies their meanness. I have tried to teach my kids to avoid this - don't put others down to make yourself look better because you just look horrible. Great post.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17480046958714954128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-72710769492408909972008-10-09T18:05:00.000-07:002008-10-09T18:05:00.000-07:00Rock on Sugar. Yes. I am so DONE with mean. I just...Rock on Sugar. Yes. I am so DONE with mean. I just don't get it. What is accomplished by that sort of 'tude? How is it constructive? How can you feel good at the end of the day after stewing in such negativity??? Enough already. Grow the hell up, I say!<BR/><BR/>Its funny you mention the other end of a couple. I am struggling with that one myself. I dare not blog about it either b/c she reads every word I write. Because she likes to gossip about me. I know she does. She is very proud to say how much bigger her home is and point out that my Thomas the tank engine tracks are the dollar store kind. She tears down my "at home" birthday party b/c it made my house messy (which she commented on LOUDLY). She is bubbling over with insecurity - clearly - and seems focused on me as a target. Huh? It's exhausting, I just flee from her... <BR/><BR/>Prob is? Her husband is so awesome, so nice, so GOOD. I kinda have a crush on him, and so does my husband. But we don't see him as much as we'd like - for obvious reasons.<BR/><BR/>And now I worry I am being snarky and a mean girl. But can't I vent about a mean girl? Can I do it and not be be mean tho?<BR/><BR/>My best defense is to not let it get to me. "Yeah, I got this TV stand at Target, isn't it AWESOME!?" No shame in my TV stand, thank you very much. She seems caught off guard when I don't - outwardly - let her get to me. How can I live with myself and my dollar store train tracks? Doing just great, lol, thanks.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, thank you for letting me vent here. You, my friend, are a "nice girl".Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04684142622982092155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-32552225624771983482008-10-09T15:57:00.000-07:002008-10-09T15:57:00.000-07:00I can totally relate to what you are saying! At th...I can totally relate to what you are saying! At the moment I have a mean girl in my life. She's my DH's cousin and also the wife of one of his best friends so I can't find a way to conveniently ignore her, but if I could, I would in a heartbeat. I don't know about other mean girls but this one seems to have a major problem with other women. It's hard to explain but I suppose it's like a weird form of competitiveness, as though her self-esteem is so low she makes sure she is the funniest, prettiest, most interesting woman in a room by driving every other woman away. Quite sad really.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027028952998373863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1646757887620573282.post-84676602219573380712008-10-09T15:55:00.000-07:002008-10-09T15:55:00.000-07:00We all know them. The funny thing is if you get to...We all know them. <BR/><BR/>The funny thing is if you get to have a one on one with a mean girl or a momzilla, they don't realize how awful they can be. In actuality, they think other women are mean to them. <BR/><BR/>I think it starts out as jealousy and insecurity as a young girl and then just turns into a habit. <BR/><BR/>So what do you do about it? Just look away, press delete and ignore them. If you had a day left to live, would you give them even one second of your time? Of course not. Silly people aren't worth your time. Cling to your family, real friends and God - that's all that's important. <BR/><BR/>And even though I am an Obama fan, I'm sure you will forgive me. I live in Liberal NYC and I am a product of society. I like reading Dooce's blog. I don't know people get so riled up over her writing. It's just a blog.Marlene McGarrityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00732364637814124011noreply@blogger.com